Often times, we can feel like outside circumstances can have a major impact on our careers. And although that might be true, those circumstances are only a small part of the reason we don’t move forward the way we’d like. With 18 years of working in Corporate America and over 10 years of coaching people on their careers, I’ve experienced how people can actually set themselves back in their own careers. Good news is that with an awareness of how we’re reacting or responding to situations at work, we can make some positive changes.
There are 3 main areas where I see people holding themselves back the most. I explain each area below with a suggestion on how to move past these obstacles to experience more success.
Underestimating Our Strengths
We are often told to work on our weaknesses or areas of improvement. Yet, we are all hard-wired with a set of talents that when leveraged can provide our unique value to employers and clients. Although many of us are aware of where we excel in our lives, we might not actually think that a particular strength is special or can provide us an advantage at work.
To fortify your confidence in your abilities, check out this assessment by the people from Gallup – – StrengthFinders 2.0. After taking this 35 minute assessment, you’ll receive a 19 page report verifying your talents which could be leveraged in to strengths. With the validation of your talents and more information on how to practice them at work, you’ll be able to have your own formula for succeeding. You will reduce your focus on your weaknesses and put energy toward bolstering what comes more naturally to you. And, think about it…what’s easier than being you?
Being Defined by a Failure
We’ve all made mistakes or had situations where things didn’t go the way we’d like. If we focus too much on what didn’t go well or hold on too tightly to trying to be right, we lose access to the opportunities in the present moment to move forward (because we’re ruminating about the past).
I’m sure we’ve all heard the positive perspectives to take on failure. For example, maybe we can learn something from the situation. We don’t always have to be right. It’s because I tried and failed that I succeeded. Well, they are all true!
What if you embraced a new perspective about failure? What if something didn’t go your way and it was actually for the best?
Take a moment to evaluate what happened? Use this opportunity to talk with your boss or mentor to understand what went well and what could have been done differently. Then, think of a situation or opportunity to practice this new learning or insight that you’ve garnered. And, be grateful for the opportunity to learn something new.
Focusing on Self-Limiting Beliefs
When we don’t overcome our failures or if we let them define us, we further reinforce self-limiting beliefs (from our past) which come up as negative self-talk. As we’ve experienced at times, negative self-talk can be debilitating. It can stop us from taking action in key areas of our careers. So, it’s important to get to the root of what is underneath that negativity.
I invite you to start noticing your thoughts when you’re approaching a situation or project at work you’re struggling with now. Just be aware of those thoughts (without judgement). With that awareness, ask yourself if that thought serves you or if it’s hurting you in some way. Does it provide any guidance on what you could be doing differently? If not, let that thought go.
As you can see, there are simple solutions to help you overcome challenges at work allowing you to have the power to move forward. Take these steps and feel empowered to enjoy all of your well-deserved success.
Need help taking these steps? If you’d like support in any of these areas or practices, I’m offering a complimentary session where we can dive deeper in to the best solutions to help you move forward and be successful. Feel free to learn more about this session here (http://www.innerbrilliancecoaching.com/connect/).
"Men Occasionally Stumble Over the Truth,
But They Pick Themselves Up and Hurry Off"
- Winston Churchill
How often have you had to face the truth, but would rather look the other way? Or, have you ever wanted to share something with someone who might be ignoring their own truth?
As a life and career coach, my job can be summed up as connecting people with their truth. It can be so rewarding. But sometimes, facing the truth or having someone face their own truth isn't very fun (at least in the moment).
I recently shared a difficult truth with a client. I was so impressed with her ability to hear it, accept it, and take action to address it. But, it can be scary to get really honest and tell someone or admit to ourselves the truth about our lives.
Two Tenets for Sharing the Truth
Before I shared the truth with her, I made sure to take 2 simple steps I keep in mind whenever speaking with my clients.
These steps may seem obvious. But, I know I've not always used them in the past when speaking to people I care about in my life.
A Simple Process for "Being" with the Truth
In fact, those tenets reminded me of 3 questions you can ask yourself before sharing a truth with someone:
Let's break these questions down:
Is it true?
Is what you're about to share a definite fact? The truth can be slippery. Which version of the truth are you thinking about now? There is your truth, someone else's truth, and somewhere in the middle.
Is it kind?
Is what you're about to share genuinely kind or helpful? And, I don't mean kind as in "I'm going to teach someone a lesson so this is helping them out." :-) It's more like would you feel good if you received this truth?
Is it necessary?
Are you sure you're not sharing to just prove you're right? If not, what do you hope to accomplish by sharing? And, do you really have to be the one who shares it?
If your comment doesn't fulfill all 3 questions, ask yourself what is your genuine intention. And, is there another way to meet it?
What hit me the other day is that you can even apply these 3 questions to yourself. If you're dwelling on something that has happened or realized a truth about yourself that you've been avoiding, are you being gentle with yourself about it? And, is it something you really need to consider or just release it? If you need to consider taking action, then do it. But, don't dwell on it.
Good luck! As my client embodied, with trust and gentility, you can handle any truth, too. Just know that you'll be ok and, always, be gentle with yourself. Are you ready to face your truth?
If you want support in facing your truth and getting results in life, work, or love, reach out Rosie@InnerBrillianceCoaching.com or learn more here.